March 28, 2018
Pet Loss
I can't write too much about this because it's still raw and I'm still raw but just in case you are in the middle of this horrid situation, here' some stuff that might help:
- Get ready for agony. Bigger than maybe you've felt for the loss of humans. This is the kind that rocks you to the very core of your being. You'll have some days of that and then you won't and then you will again. I imagine it gets better with time. I'll let you know.
- Understand that your heart will truly break. It's true; I actually felt mine breaking and I am not being metaphoric.
- It's okay to let people know that using the 'rainbow bridge' term does not bring you comfort. if it doesn't. It doesn't for me. I don't want to picture her walking away from us forever over some stupid multi-colored bridge.
- Did I mention the agony?
- Someone said "just remember the fun times". That person is an idiot. I"m mad and sad and angry as hell that she wasn't one of those pets who doubled her life expectancy.
- We had her cremated. I am still shocked at how much better we felt once we brought her ashes home. Consider it; you might find it helps a lot.
- Expect a lot of anger. Lots and lots of anger.
- Know that 500 zillion people have gone through this. I hate that fact but it helps to know others know the agony. And have survived it.
- I have been repeating the mantra "pets don't last forever" in my head for two weeks. I knew one day she'd die, it just came sooner rather than later. Yes, there is nothing fair about any of it. Knowing this, I have been reminding myself 10x a day that I signed up for this when I adopted her.
- In the first few days I swore to anyone who would listen that I'd never get another pet. Then I listened to a recording about it and the person said "why would you go through life so afraid of loss that you would deny yourself the joy of unconditional love?". It made me reconsider my position...a little.
- I'm sorry for you. So so sorry. ♥
- Get ready for agony. Bigger than maybe you've felt for the loss of humans. This is the kind that rocks you to the very core of your being. You'll have some days of that and then you won't and then you will again. I imagine it gets better with time. I'll let you know.
- Understand that your heart will truly break. It's true; I actually felt mine breaking and I am not being metaphoric.
- It's okay to let people know that using the 'rainbow bridge' term does not bring you comfort. if it doesn't. It doesn't for me. I don't want to picture her walking away from us forever over some stupid multi-colored bridge.
- Did I mention the agony?
- Someone said "just remember the fun times". That person is an idiot. I"m mad and sad and angry as hell that she wasn't one of those pets who doubled her life expectancy.
- We had her cremated. I am still shocked at how much better we felt once we brought her ashes home. Consider it; you might find it helps a lot.
- Expect a lot of anger. Lots and lots of anger.
- Know that 500 zillion people have gone through this. I hate that fact but it helps to know others know the agony. And have survived it.
- I have been repeating the mantra "pets don't last forever" in my head for two weeks. I knew one day she'd die, it just came sooner rather than later. Yes, there is nothing fair about any of it. Knowing this, I have been reminding myself 10x a day that I signed up for this when I adopted her.
- In the first few days I swore to anyone who would listen that I'd never get another pet. Then I listened to a recording about it and the person said "why would you go through life so afraid of loss that you would deny yourself the joy of unconditional love?". It made me reconsider my position...a little.
- I'm sorry for you. So so sorry. ♥
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